Category Archives: Life lessons

August 21, 2019 dr


Good morning, DearHeart.

I’m starting a new thing today – well, tonight actually. God has a funny way of shaking me out of the familiar and comfortable, so this trek moves me toward ‘Dr. Lewis’, and hopefully my studies will help move my beloved OKLAHOMA toward a stronger workforce.

I remember sitting at a desk the first night I started on my Masters in 2001, and my legs were shaking uncontrollably. It had been a long time since I had been in class and I didn’t have 3 little boys at home when I’d been in class before. We did it. God made a way.

He has moved mountains during this prep, too. Like you, I have found myself in a new beginning several times over the course of my life:

• beginning in a new job

• beginning in a new church

• beginning a new book

• beginning a new diet

• beginning in a new school

• beginning a new relationship

In none of those beginnings did I find myself comfortable. Or at ease. Most times, I felt awkward and out of place.

Did you notice it was all about how I felt in the midst of the new beginning?

“One of the best ways to face this problem of self-centeredness is to discover some cause and some purpose, some loyalty outside of yourself and give yourself to that something.” (Martin Luther King Jr.)

The unknown of a new beginning brings an excitement, an eagerness to see what and how God is going to work and unfold His plan.

In writing to the Israelites, God encourages them to remember where they had come from (Egypt) while looking forward to the days ahead. He wanted them to realize dwelling on the past would cause them to stagnate.

“But forget all that – it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.” (Isaiah 43: 18-19, NLT)

New beginnings –
the places where passion and purpose collide.

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

Proverbs 16:3 ESV

Wake up.





August 8, 2019 mysteries


Good morning, DearHeart.

We want answers, don’t we? Why did I eat that? What did he mean by that? Why doesn’t the doctor know what to do? Why did that tick me off? Why did he respond like that? Why did she have to die? Why am I so scared? What if I fail?

We’re accustomed in this culture to seek answers, facts, “quantitative data”, to narrow our focus until we’ve solved the problem. But, think about this, doesn’t that reduce the way we see each other and the world? Doesn’t that reduce the work of our Creator? And, doesn’t knowing the answers keep us from finding solace in the mystery? It keeps us from experiencing the sweet surrender and easy humility of simply not knowing. “Simply not knowing” is a wonderful state of being. At least it can be. When we allow ourselves to be washed over by waves of contradiction, and we stop insisting on sorting out each one, when we release blaming others and blaming ourselves, we might find ourselves on new unfamiliar ground, a place where fresh experiences and re-connection become possible. When we see each other’s innate contradictions as a flaw or weakness, we essentially take a stand against their basic human-ness, and that is the real disaster. We also are very likely take the same stand against our own human-ness. We remain apart, separate, because we have rejected a real part of being human. Sometimes, we don’t have to know.

Even there, we can rest.

“They all realized they were in a place of holy mystery, that God was at work among them. They were quietly worshipful—and then noisily grateful, calling out among themselves, “God is back, looking to the needs of his people!” Luke 7:16-17 MSG

Wake up.

Allow space for His mystery.


August 6, 2019 nudge


Good morning, DearHeart.

As a child of God, I believe God allows things to happen to get our attention. When we get too caught up being earthlings instead of spiritual beings, He nudges you and me with an issue and says, “I just want to spend time with you, child .” When we are doing life with too casual of a spirit, we become spectators, we forget to have a grateful heart, we forget to refuel with Him, we allow rat race business to consume the space where we would enter His courts with Thanksgiving, and we fail to position our hearts to separate ourselves. Do you know why God stands at the door of your heart and knocks? Because, God is on the outside of the door … He gave US the key. He won’t open the door, He must be invited in. When we get too comfortable we fail to invite Him in … after a while you no longer hear the knock. You get used to doing life on your own terms.

You need to know that you are a vessel of His glory. The time you set aside just to sit with Him is the time He pours in more of His Glory to

love you,

radiate through you,

touch you,

nourish you,

and light joy in you.

“For God, who said, “Light shall shine out of darkness,” is the One who has shone in our hearts to give the Light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the surpassing greatness of the power will be of God and not from ourselves;”

2 Corinthians 4:6-7 NASB

Wake up.

Be nudged.


August 5, 2019 shoes


Good morning, DearHeart.

Our Liv girl is a live wire. Sitting still is a rare occurrence for her. I was watching her the other day, walking in my heels. She loves playing in my shoes. I loved playing in my grandmother’s, Mom Coon’s heels, too. She had lots of them.

Livvie got me thinking about walking in the shoes of another. And, walking in the shoes of our Savior.

We can walk in His ways. We can keep step with Him as we rely on His Spirit within us. It happens as we live out our days with Him in the forefront of our minds.

Jesus sat down and spent time with other people. In fact, He was repeatedly criticized for sitting to eat at tables with the tax collectors, the broken, the sinners. We may come to understand the hurts and brokenness of others only as we spend time.

With them.

Listening to them.

Seeing them.

Like Liv in my shoes, the shoes we find ourselves in may not always fit comfortably. God may ask us to walk where it may not be so comfortable or familiar to us. May we go anyway.

As I continued to watch Liv, it became more interesting. Each time, a shoe slipped off one of her feet, she would not just stop and slip it back on. No, this little gal would bend over, pick up the shoe and take it back to the point it all started.

And so must we. We are surely going to mess up – every single day. We will fail someone or at something. We won’t do everything perfectly. I am so grateful for the Cross, the place where we get to start all over, anew and renewed. The Cross – the place where it all began. The place of new beginnings and of holy do-overs.

And for those times when our feet get tired, for they surely will – may we know that even there, on any road we walk, we are blessed ….

“A devout life does bring wealth, but it’s the rich simplicity of being yourself before God. Since we entered the world penniless and will leave it penniless, if we have bread on the table and shoes on our feet, that’s enough.” 1 Timothy 6:6-8 MSG

Wake up.

Wear the awkward shoes.

Be blessed by them.


July 31, 2019 hungry


Good morning DearHeart.

It takes courage, to get to know your soul; have you noticed? You have been set apart to do so. And, it takes even more courage to nod, inviting the Most High to enter into your minutes. Taking a step beyond the flesh, beyond the daily routine is not normal. The enemy will throw darts at every step; be prepared. Satan knows he can’t compete with the power of your Maker.

Not even close.

The more you get to know your soul – and engage the Authority of El Elyon, our God of Perfect Control, the more you engage His POWER in your life and live in His AUTHORITY. At every “yes, Lord”, The Divine Himself wraps you in and takes you deeper.

DearOne, let this saturate your cells a moment:

once you are conscious of your SOUL,




‘In all these things we are more than victorious through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that not even death or life, angels or rulers, things present or things to come, hostile powers, height or depth, or any other created thing will have the power to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord!’ (Romans 8:37-39 HCSB)

It’s not all jelly beans and rainbows. Answering His call will take you to both intensely light and intensely dark places. Extreme limits of your heart will be engaged by Him to get your attention and get you in alignment with His will. He will take you anywhere you need to go again, and again, and again, in order to meet Him in increasing intimacy.

The journey will take you through every kind of emotion there … until you find you are consistently hungry for more of Him.

Hungry for Him is where He desires for us to stay.

His ways are perfect.

His ways are right.

He is FOR you.

Wake up.

Stay hungry.


July 29, 2019 weight of Glory


Good morning, DearHeart.

When I was a young mother I was making my bed one morning, standing between the wall and the bed, placing the pillows, when I felt the WEIGHT of God’s glory on me so heavy that I could hardly breathe. It was the first time I had ever physically felt His power and His presence so strong and so undeniable that I couldn’t move. I had been praying for years, and had been in prayer that morning for someone I dearly loved to change to fit who I wanted them to be. I was praying wrong, yet thought I was right. And, God showed up.

He set His foot down on my life. His authority stepped into my request and the forces of darkness had to back up and back out. In my efforts to fix them, I was dealing with worry and frustrations and depressions from which I couldn’t see a way around or a way through. Yet, in that moment, He revealed that the loved one was His project and not mine. My focus had to stay on MY relationship with my Savior, and the work of the Holy Spirit through me and through others would handle the details of changing the hearts of the other.

I’ve learned (sometimes, I forget and have to be reminded!) to stay in my lane, focus on the hearts within my realm…my own heart.

The experience changed everything about how I live, and breathe, and move in Christ. I had been praying, but with no real hope that the relationship would or could change. That same GLORY that manifested in me that morning is the same Glory promised and delivered to every believer.

Have you felt the weight of His presence?

“And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one: I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.” John 17:22-23 KJV

Wake up.

Pray. Feel His Glory.


July 26, 2019 dad’s book


Good morning, DearHeart.

There are parts of the bible that are such a mystery. Parts of it seems bizarre to me. But, what I’ve discovered is that the head-scratching parts of the Bible are not the ones that give me trouble. It’s the parts that I DO understand with crystal clarity – the simplest things, like … how can He love someone like me? Yet, He has extravagant love for me … he walks with me … His presence is in me … and He shows me the meaning of ‘unconditional’. His Word always operates, always works.

The Holy book is God’s tool. It is His Word. It is my guide. It brings His Voice into my hours.

At some point I got over the notion that it was untouchable –

I mark mine up,

make notes in the margins,

throw it in the car seat and take it with me,

bend pages every which way.

And then, I get a new one to start the process all over again.

When we see God’s Word for something more than just a flower press or a place to keep clippings of obituaries, He comes alive in us.

IN us … thoughts and actions and words.

By example, my dad taught me that bibles are to be worn out. When my brothers and I were growing up, Dad had one held together with duct tape. That’s my goal, too … to wear out my bibles.

Thanks, Dad.

“The revelation of GOD is whole and pulls our lives together. The signposts of GOD are clear and point out the right road. The life-maps of GOD are right, showing the way to joy. The directions of GOD are plain and easy on the eyes. GOD ’s reputation is twenty-four-carat gold, with a lifetime guarantee. The decisions of GOD are accurate down to the nth degree.

God’s Word is better than a diamond, better than a diamond set between emeralds. You’ll like it better than strawberries in spring, better than red, ripe strawberries.”

Psalm 19:7-10 MSG

Wake up.

Get your bible.

Wear it out.


July 25, 2019 lift your eyes


Good morning, DearHeart.

We get so caught up in the lists that we need a reminder.

Lift your eyes.

Lift your heart.

Take in a fresh breath of His Holy Spirit.


Feel Him.

Let the Holy Spirit take you to a place where you are both absorbing and living out Father God’s presence,

in and out of you,

running through you,

pouring from you.

Breathe Him in deeply. He will find the cracks. He will find the dark places where the pain and the fear and the selfish parts hide. He will melt the differences in an endless love running through your heart, moving outward from there.

Breathe deep.

Breathe slow.

‘May my prayer be set before you like incense; may the lifting up of my hands be like the evening sacrifice.’ (Psalm 141:2 NIV)

Wake up.

Lift your eyes.


July 24, 2019 touched


Good morning, DearHeart.

In each season of life, there are impressions that come that are too profound for words. Notice sounds that come in indescribable sounds. Notice colors, not only those you see with your eyes, but those that are touching the deepest part of your heart.

Father God uses all of His creation to speak with us – especially when words just aren’t enough to cry out the mix of emotions that need to be touched, accepted. Recognize the tenderness of the emotion in your hours. Recognize them, and return them home.

‘Thank [God] in everything [no matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks], for this is the will of God for you [who are] in Christ Jesus [the Revealer and Mediator of that will].’ (1 Thessalonians 5:18 AMP)

Wake up.

Be touched by The Creator.


July 23, 2019 predicament


Good morning, DearHeart.

When Liv is riding with me we look for animals. One farm has goats, and usually there is one that is in a crazy predicament. We are so much like them – just one decision away from a predicament. One decision away from crazy.

At the end of the day bad decisions aren’t just about you. Its about collateral damage. The more Satan can cause to fall, the harder he strategizes. Make no mistake, Satan is out to kill, steal, and destroy and take as many as he can down with him. That is what the enemy is so hellbent on doing to the family today – he is in to luring us in and getting you and me so caught up in the cycle of sin that before you even realize it, it has taken you under. And, if you are there, you will not be able to get out of it yourself. You will need a trusted Christian counselor or strong Christian friend to guide you through the process. And, here is the good news … your story brings you to a new place.

Twists and turns.




Each brings a unique story to your life, don’t they?

And, through each one, a mini-journey through uneasiness grows. The heart-trips are unplanned by us, yet somehow, in every new walk, the Holy Spirit brings to you and to me other hearts in flux who grow deeply connected.

To be this raw has purpose.

The Holy Spirit’s ways through the suffering are not always predictable. From this hole that suffering brings, an opening is made.

Suffering brings a certain death to a useless part of who you used to be. Through that death comes new life.

Such a place is nothing less than a birthing process. Death to the old holds sacred rites to pass on the new … so that, once again, we can offer what we can of ourselves to our human world … and, point them to the Light.

‘I will instruct you and show you the way to go; with My eye on you, I will give counsel.’ (Psalms 32:8 HCSB)

Wake up.

Eyes on Jesus.

Eyes on the light.

You can do this.