Monthly Archives: November 2018

November 15, 2018 my manifesto


Good morn’ DearOnes.

I keep a personal manifesto in my top drawer. I wrote it in Dr. Barnes class at UCO maybe 20 years ago while working on my Masters. It’s been tweaked a million times. It comes in handy on days when God needs to remind me who I was before the world pushes in and tries to tell me who I “should” be.

Or, that I’m doing it all wrong.

Or, that I’m not enough.

Maybe it’ll be a reminder for who you are, too.

Thought I’d share. In a nutshell, it says to default to love.



Go ahead, right now, and send love out to where you are going today.

The store.


The office.


The couch.


So – this a lil long. Before you start have I told you lately how much I love my people? You’re my people.

And, I so love you. You, too, are enough.

My highest value is compassion, which comes in lots of forms: love, kindness, empathy, gratitude.  And, every time a situation comes up, I ask myself, “How can I deal with this with full compassion?”

My goals are the same whether they are professional, personal or otherwise. Success is not easy. If it were easy, everyone would do it.  It is hard work. Messy work. The following are my goals; they are also my key ingredients for assuring I maintain a successful spirit. I start each sunrise by sending the love of God out before me to all the places I will be.

1.  Humility. Be humble. Have a huge amount of humility. Everything comes from God; it is a gift, an undeserved blessing. Be aware of every gift. Psalm 25:9 “He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way.”

2. Nurturing.  Nurture those who follow me. Do not enable them – teach them to find answers themselves. Praise them immediately, in public if possible, send notes of encouragement. Nurture always. Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the world of God may not be reviled.”

3.  Commitment.  Everyday. Have a “no matter what” mentality. Commitment is the one trait that separates those who make it with those who don’t. Stop “trying” and just “do it”. Don’t give my power away. Don’t make excuses. Be committed. This is my way out of anything that is holding me back. Proverbs 16:3 “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

4. Focus. Understand my goal. Know what it is that I am striving for, then get LASER BEAM focused on that goal. Eliminate all tolerations that hinder my focus.  Proverbs 4:35 “Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.”

5. Positive Attitude. Love those around me, everyone that I come in contact with. Always assume the good intentions of others. My Mom Reinking always said, “Annnngellla, (it rolled off her tongue, she only addressed me by my real name) always judge by others by their best intention”.

Psalm 118:24 “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”

6.  Integrity. Character. Do what’s right even if it is hard. Do the right thing. Be transparent, share my weaknesses. 1 Peter 3:16 “Having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.” Job 27:4-6 “My lips will not speak falsehood, and my tongue will not utter deceit. Far be it from me to say that you are right; till I die I will not put away my integrity from me. I hold fast my righteousness and will not let it go; my heart does not reproach me for any of my days.”

7. Generosity. Share. Sacrifice and give generously of my time, my talents, my money, my ear. Share always. Proverbs 11:24-25 “One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want. Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”

8.  Self-Discipline. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. Only undertake what I can do in an excellent fashion. Hebrews 12:11 “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

9.  High Expectations. Dream Big. Paint a BIG picture of where I see myself. See it in my mind’s eye. Freeze that image until I’m ready to enlarge it! Have a classy style of portraying my expectations. The kind of class that lends an aura of confidence – that is, being sure without being cocky. Mark 9:31 “We heard him say, ‘I will destroy this temple that is made with hands, and in three days I will build another, not made with hands.’”

10. Endurance. Run the race to the finish. I don’t have to win – just finish. Finishing is where the success lies. FINISH. Philippians 3:13-14 “One thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus”.

Thomas Jefferson penned the words, “Those with the ability to take action, have the responsibility to take action.” As I grow my hope is that my people gain camaraderie, from which we will serve together and learn about each other. Relationships are critical to accomplishment, and I hope to gain insights that will enable me to love well. I also hope to gain confidence in the area of “leadership presence”, but not in a pretentious way, just a very real transparency that will allow me to make a positive, authentic, impact, and courage to lead with soul. Romans 12:1-2 “ I beseech you, therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: by be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  

November 14, 2018 heavy


Good morn, DearOne.


Are things out of your control?

Did you get left out? Slighted?


This verse is on my fridge:

“You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!”  (Isaiah 26:3 NLT).

He promises to keep us in peace. That is His part.

Our part?

…well, we are to trust in Him

…we are to keep our thoughts fixed on Him.

Some days, if we are honest, that is easier said than done. Some days maintaining our focus is hard.

Almost daily my closest people and I look at each other and remind each other “God has a plan.”

Some days I need to say it.

Some days I need to hear it.

Every day I need to believe it.

Even when it’s hard.

“The Lord is my shepherd;

I have all that I need.

He lets me rest in green meadows;

he leads me beside peaceful streams.

He renews my strength.

He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.

Even when I walk through the darkest valley,

I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me.

Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me.

You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies.

You honor me by anointing my head with oil.

My cup overflows with blessings.

Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life,

and I will live in the house of the Lord forever.”

Psalms 23:1-6 NLT

Wake up.



November 13, 2018 steeping


Good morning, DearOne.

My mom has never been a coffee drinker. But, oh how she LOVES her hot tea! Every time I grab tea bags to toss in boiling water I think about my mom. Funny. It really is the little things that keep us grinning, isn’t it?

Like tea steeping. Mundane.

At times, we find ourselves wondering what God’s will is for our lives. When His will is unclear, we find ourselves waiting for Him to direct. Steeping. But, there are other areas, where He very specifically tells us His will…. “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” 1 Thess 5:18.

Well that’s pretty clear.

Up for the challenge?

May we all walk in His will today … but, something hit me last night. Let me ask you a question:

Which would you rather….

Eat a dry teabag,

Or, drink a hot cup of tea?

That cup of tea, brewed just the way we like it is what we would pick – every time. For it is not until the tea bag comes out of its pouch & gets submerged into the boiling water that the true flavor is released. The hotter the water, the longer the tea bag is left to steep, the better the flavor.

Oh the irony of this today!

Is this really any different than our lives?

We all would so much rather have life go along without difficulties. No complications to speak of.

But, would we be as authentic?

Would our faith be as precious?

Would our stories be as meaningful?

After all that Job went through, he states this:

“But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.” Job 23:10.

Job knows that the only way to have anything lasting, anything of value is to go through. He knows that in going through, He will come forth.

He will come forth in us



more courageous,


He knows it will be worth it.

Who would have thought that in the mundane & ordinary task of making tea, God would have something to speak to my heart. Tea anyone?

Wake up.

Steep and thank.


November 9, 2018 just a deal


Good morning, DearHeart.

Have you ever been so distressed about a deal that it is all consuming? I have. It hangs – looming among every thought and action, even lighthearted conversations and routines carry the weight of the “deal”. My brother, Russell Fred has a saying about the the undesirable situations he walks through, “Awe, Ang, you know, it’s just a deal.” He is right. Look back on all the “deals” you’ve walked through. So far, you’re batting .1000 for getting through. Often, God sends people to help you, too. I remember one of my worst deals, people would look at me and say, Ang, you don’t have to carry this, you certainly don’t have to carry this alone. I recognize now, those were God’s words – God’s people, on assignment for Him. The ones that taught me to focus on THIS moment’s blessings and not on the ‘what if’s’ of the future and the ‘I should’ve done’s’ of the past.

I just think that it is really easy to say, “yes, I believe God is faithful, and good”, we can believe what God is … yet until we have to step off that cliff and have His arms wrap us and carry us to safety – it is then that you go, “ ok. I get it. This really is You, Father, you caused people’s souls to align and You caused these miracles to happen in the right order. I get it. I get it. I can trust you here, too.

At times, (most times!) we think more of the circumstances facing us in a particular day than of the Creator of the day.

“This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24 NIV.

He made the day.

He brought it about.

He designed it.

He knows all about it.

Nothing that will take place in this day will take Him by surprise.

May we not miss what He has for us in THIS day.

Now I am not saying that a day may not be hard or difficult. It may. We are yet instructed what to do on days like that.

“I will offer you a sacrifice of thanksgiving and call on the name of the LORD.”  Psalm 116:17 NLT

He knows it is a sacrifice during those hard times to find reasons to give thanks. He knows. We offer that sacrifice & CALL on Him. We do not want to miss any of the delights that He has prepared for us. We do not want to miss the beneficial training that today holds for us. May we not see only the darkness of our thoughts but remember to “gaze upon the beauty of the Lord” (Psalm 27:4b).

Wake up.

Refocus your gaze.

Be thankful right here.


November 7, 2018 wide eyed wonder


Good morning, DearOne.

Our granddaughter, Liv, is two. Through a two year old’s eyes there is curiosity and surprise and excitement in unexpected places. And, everywhere is an ‘unexpected place’. Her face lights up, her brown eyes get big and cut around, her eyebrows lift, and her lips make an ‘o’ as she gasps. Which, in turn, elicits the exact same response from all the adults who are watching.

Pure joy.




All a gift.

It makes me think of this … the familiar, that which we have known & experienced before, can surely rob us. It can deny us of the wonder, the awe, the gift that is before us. If we are going to appreciate what is before us, it is going to be because we deliberately choose & pursue the wonder.

“The man answered, “Why, this is an amazing thing! You do not know where he comes from, and yet he opened my eyes.

…He said, “Lord, I believe,” and he worshiped him.”

John 9:30, 38 ESV

Wake up.

Watch in wonder.


November 6, 2018


Good morning, DearOne.

We have a very special rose bush in my backyard. It stays loaded with yellow blooms from spring through fall. It’s amazing! My cousin gave it to us several years ago when my father-in-law passed away. In June I was walking around fertilizing the flowerbed plants in a broadcast motion just like the YouTube video showed, tripped, and the whole coffee can of fertilizer landed on my rose bush. Every effort I made to clean up wasn’t enough. Branches died off one by one. But, I pruned and watered and babied it and I started talking to it. Even got my sweet baby Liv to sing our version of “Baby Shark” …

“… baby cow, moo moo – moo moo moo – moo”.

Then pruned some more.

It turned a corner.

Began producing blooms again, and it’s going to make it. As a matter of fact, it has tons of buds and blooms again.

It just had to be pruned and loved on.

Jesus tells us that the Father prunes “so that we will be even more fruitful”. I look back on times of loss in my life … could it be that while I was being pruned by the Father, I have so focused on the process (the pain), that I missed that He truly knew what He was doing? How did I miss that He was only removing what was dead? That He was even doing what was best for me at that time? He was in the process of removing all which was no longer purposeful in my life. He was removing the unhealthy. While I lay in the dormant stage for a time, a new branch of my life was waiting to burst forth & bear fruit. He was always at work in my life to make me more beautiful, more productive, more healthy. And it would all be for His glory.

Every woman has a story. Pruning is part of it.

How He has been unfolding these truths this summer has been amazing to me.

I’ve found myself finally appreciating the pruning process. Notice I did not say, “I liked it” but that I appreciated it. I realized that, sure the pruning is for presently in my life, but it is also for what is yet to come. As I allow the Lord to prune from my life the heavy, the unattractive, the strongholds, the unproductive; it is so the future generations of my family will also be productive for Him, walk in integrity, and be healthy spiritually.

“Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit.

I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”

John 15:2, 5 ESV

Wake up.

See the pruning places.


November 6, 2018 Sunday Dinner


Good morning, DearOne.

You know how much I love traditions and patterns, right? As a little girl we spent every Sunday after church at my grandparents for Sunday dinner with whoever might show up, aunts and uncles and cousins and friends, and dogs, hogs and horses were always near on the creek, too.

And, God’s presence hovered on us there.

Mother has kept that Sunday Dinner gig alive and well for all these years, too. She is very intentional, like her mother was. Ever so often, it ends up just Steve and me as we live closest. And, the place lights up even brighter when Russ gets to be at the Sunday table, too. But, usually there’s a whole litter mix of Coons in and out Mom’s front door on Sundays. Sometimes she strays from the roast and potatoes menu, which puts a zig in the place of our zag, but everything tastes perfect at Mom’s. This Sunday anchor is a deep root for us.

Sometimes loud and chatty.

Sometimes days are quieter.

Always, a landing place and a place to be refueled before the weekday morning world comes pulling all directions.

Along with God’s hovering, He is also pulling us tighter. As our trails take us back out into the world on our journeys our Forerunner, our common anchor, uses these days to refuel us with the hope set before us.

As we enter into this season of celebrating Christ, heighten your notice of the ways God desires to show up. Meet Him there with your people or just one on one and be blessed.

“So when God desired to show more convincingly to the heirs of the promise the unchangeable character of his purpose, he guaranteed it with an oath, so that by two unchangeable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have fled for refuge might have strong encouragement to hold fast to the hope set before us. We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain, where Jesus has gone as a forerunner on our behalf.”

Hebrews 6:17-20 ESV

Wake up.

Refuel with Christ.